Let’s start with the definition of optimism from the Oxford Dictionary: hopefulness and confidence about the future or the successful outcome of something.
Now the definition of pessimism, again from the Oxford Dictionary: a tendency to see the worst aspect of things or believe that the worst will happen; a lack of hope or confidence in the future.
The pessimist might say, “How dreary, it’s raining,” while the optimist might say, “Thank goodness for this rain; the plants and flowers need it.”
Here are a few of the differences between an optimist and a pessimist:
Optimist Traits
- Sees a problem as a challenge
- Has a “can-do” attitude
- Laughs and smiles frequently
- Has a positive upbeat disposition
- Expects all to work out for the best
- Is determined to succeed
- Believes in themselves and others
- Counts their blessings
Pessimist Traits
- Sees a problem as a catastrophe
- Questions their own abilities
- Does not laugh and smile much
- Has a negative, bitter disposition
- Expects things to go wrong
- Gives up easily
- Surprised when things go as planned
- Annoyed by optimistic people
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How to Spot A Pessimist
You may know a pessimist right from the start; however, in some cases, the pessimist’s negativity might be a bit more subtle. Sometimes it may take time to figure out what it is about a person that makes you uneasy. Sometimes a pessimist will be blatant and drop their negativity like a bomb. Other times, you walk away feeling worse than when you first encountered the pessimist, but not quite sure why.
A pessimist sometimes uses sarcasm and wit to disguise their cynicism. It may be a need for bolstering their own self-esteem to make sarcastic comments under the guise of wit. It is also possible they are pessimistic about everything in life – theirs, yours, and everyone else’s. A pessimist can always find negative even in a good situation and won’t get excited about good things continuing. They are also quick to point out the flaws in others but also think others are looking for their flaws as well. Many times they are afraid of failure so they will not pursue the things they really want; a promotion, a dyi project, a relationship, etc. Pessimism will hold them back.
How to Spot an Optimist
An optimist tends to have a more positive energy and aura. Whenever you are around an optimist, you walk away feeling better than before your encounter the optimist. They are always finding the lighter side of things, are more jovial, laugh and smile more.
Even in the face of adversity, an optimist can say, “Look at this challenge in front of me; I can’t wait to find a creative solution.” However, an optimist will make the most of all opportunities. They will not blame others when things go wrong and they easily forgive. A pessimist will waste time and energy complaining, whining, and feeling sorry for themselves rather than look for the creative solution.
Optimism as A Way of Being
An optimist by nature may be born with a positive, upbeat temperament. It could stem from a lovely upbringing, a genetic predisposition, great childhood, or all the above.
Optimism as A Strategy
However, an optimist may also be an ordinary individual who chooses to be optimistic. It is a conscious effort everyday of their life. He/she may have decided being optimistic is a possibility and make a conscious choice to do and be so. They cultivate positive thinking. They take responsibility for their life and don’t simply count on good luck. Sometimes they might even just have to pretend to be an optimist. That’s okay sometimes too.
A pessimist might be aware they have the power to change his/her attitude to a more positive demeanor. However, they choose to remain the same. The sound of their own voice complaining, feeling sorry for themselves, or getting attention for their woeful tales is enough to keep them satisfied.
Thankfully, optimism can be a learned habit. A pessimistic type personality can learn how to be optimistic and put the practices of positive thinking to work in their life. With a bit of effort and consciously choosing the lighter side of situations and circumstances, a pessimist can learn the skills, habits, and traits of being more optimistic. They simply must choose to.
In my next blog, we’ll discuss why to you should choose to be an optimist.
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